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In our most recent discussion with participants online, andwemet pondered the question— “Why are we afraid of getting into new relationships?”
Now, the common consensus was that the fear of getting into new relationships stems from unpleasant experiences in the past, be it lost trust, being gaslit, or perhaps even just falling out of love. The most important thing to remember in these cases however, is that this feeling is normal and that you are not alone.
https://www.andwemet.com/In our most recent discussion with participants online, andwemet pondered the question— “Why are we afraid of getting into new relationships?”
Now, the common consensus was that the fear of getting into new relationships stems from unpleasant experiences in the past, be it lost trust, being g...See moreBest Online Dating Site In India | Indian Dating Siteandwemet.com is the best Online Dating Site In India. Visit this New Indian Matrimonial Site for Committed and Serious Relationship for the age of 30 and above. Matchmaking or dating can result here in matrimony or living in.Oct 26 '210 1ChasingMe likes thisYou need to sign in to comment -
sumitJioson uploaded 1 new photo to Newsfeed Photos albumNitin and Mina’s daughter Priya just turned 27. Priya was celebrating her second birthday staying home thanks to the pandemic. Priya was inundated with calls to wish her the best but every call asked her about her relationship status. After receiving birthday wishes, the next sentence asked by all who were wishing her included the following sentences - You are 27 years, what plans for marriage - Are you dating or in a relationship? - Have you signed on any Indian dating app - Your parents must be looking for a boy for you - Aha you are 27, when are we being invited to your marriage While Priya was open to meeting someone, she was open to signing up on an online matchmaking service but she could not understand why all her family and her friends asked about her plans to get married. She could understand the family’s concern or curiousness, but found it odd when her friends asking the same because she had never asked them ever their plans to marry, and she had single friends in both their mid to late 20s and early to mid 30s. Priya could not understand the obsession around the fact around marriage and it is not that she did not believe in it, she very much did and wanted to marry. A little bit about Priya, her parents lived in a city which had finest schools and colleges and she worked hard to study in them. She got a job in another city but was working from home since last 2 years because of pandemic, but with things opening up, she was going to move to the new city soon and was super excited about the fact. Basically for 27 years she always lived with her parents and now she wanted to live alone, independently to know herself better, to know what she wants from her relationship and from life in general, because till now all her needs were being fulfilled at her parents home. Not only was Priya keen on living away from home, she was keen in meeting someone for a relationship, something fun but not casual, something to start as friends and then long term maybe. She also knew that she wanted to get into a long term relationship but wanted to start it with companionship where they both lived in their own homes and in time try livingin and post that a marriage. She knew that if the introduction happened via the family route then she would not be able to extend the courtship as she wanted, besides when families get involved all the responsibility comes in and for now she wanted a relationship without any responsibility. Her long-term serious relationship she wanted to try for 7-9 months post which get married. Priya had never signed up on any Indian dating apps and her girlfriends did not have anything much to say about them, more so because she was not seeking something casual. It was then one of her aunts told her about andwemet an online dating service for single Indians who are conscious and are fine for things to go slow vs the mindless swipe culture. Given andwemet was not that well known she signed up on Bumble but could not handle the pressure of swiping and gave in and signed up on andwemet and today after over 5 months she has met someone who she thinks she will like to know for longer. At the same time Priya has moved into the work city, has a small apartment in the city center close to work and is enjoying knowing herself better. https://www.andwemet.com/Nitin and Mina’s daughter Priya just turned 27. Priya was celebrating her second birthday staying home thanks to the pandemic. Priya was inundated with calls to wish her the best but every call asked her about her relationship status. After receiving birthday wishes, the next sentence asked by all w...See more
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Unfortunately, culturally among Indians, emotionally abusive behavior is normalised by both victim and abuser, as well as their family and friends. It can be a difficult situation to escape and the victim might instead find themself excusing the behavior and making adjustments to accommodate the abusers behavior.
So here are some questions to ask yourself if you think something is a miss:
1. Find that your partner is allowed to express anger but you are not?
2. Find that you have been slowly isolated from friends and family, people who care about you?
3. Find that your partner always finds fault with friends and family?
4. Find that your partner often puts you down and/ or blames you for their problems or holds you responsible for others’ mistakes?
5. Find that your partner insults you but then says they’re joking?
6. Feel apprehensive or anxious often? Especially around them?
7. Find yourself letting go of things or hobbies that once made you happy?
8. Feel unsupported in achieving your own career or life goals?
9. Find yourself doing things a particular way to keep the peace, no matter the physical cost to you?
10. Find that your partner shames you or constantly compares you with others?
11. Find yourself always walking on eggshells, trying to avoid a comment or outburst from your partner?
12. Feel like you have no control over your own life?
If you’ve answered yes to 2 or more of these questions, it's time to do some introspection. You can do this by talking to your partner, couples counselling, etc. However, if you do not observe any improvement, it is best to consider making changes to your situation in a way so as to prevent pain and grief for yourself, and perhaps others such as children in case they are involved too. It is very easy to believe your partner will make changes, they might lie about it as well. But more often than not they will revert to their old ways, and so the best thing to do is to gather the courage and leave while you can.
Relationships need to be fun, yes there will be disagreements and arguments, but no one has to stay in an abusive relationship. Also do not blame yourself for the relationship not working. Anything that breaks is hurtful, give it some time, collect yourself and restart your happy life and in case looking to date again, looking for a serious relationship than you may want to consider signing up on andwemet.
https://www.andwemet.com/Unfortunately, culturally among Indians, emotionally abusive behavior is normalised by both victim and abuser, as well as their family and friends. It can be a difficult situation to escape and the victim might instead find themself excusing the behavior and making adjustments to accommodate the abu...See moreBest Online Dating Site In India | Indian Dating Siteandwemet.com is the best Online Dating Site In India. Visit this New Indian Matrimonial Site for Committed and Serious Relationship for the age of 30 and above. Matchmaking or dating can result here in matrimony or living in.You need to sign in to comment -
sumitJioson uploaded 1 new photo to Newsfeed Photos albumBeing In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship? Unfortunately, culturally among Indians, emotionally abusive behavior is normalised by both victim and abuser, as well as their family and friends. It can be a difficult situation to escape and the victim might instead find themself excusing the behavior and making adjustments to accommodate the abusers behavior. So here are some questions to ask yourself if you think something is a miss: 1. Find that your partner is allowed to express anger but you are not? 2. Find that you have been slowly isolated from friends and family, people who care about you? 3. Find that your partner always finds fault with friends and family? 4. Find that your partner often puts you down and/ or blames you for their problems or holds you responsible for others’ mistakes? 5. Find that your partner insults you but then says they’re joking? 6. Feel apprehensive or anxious often? Especially around them? 7. Find yourself letting go of things or hobbies that once made you happy? 8. Feel unsupported in achieving your own career or life goals? 9. Find yourself doing things a particular way to keep the peace, no matter the physical cost to you? 10. Find that your partner shames you or constantly compares you with others? 11. Find yourself always walking on eggshells, trying to avoid a comment or outburst from your partner? 12. Feel like you have no control over your own life? If you’ve answered yes to 2 or more of these questions, it's time to do some introspection. You can do this by talking to your partner, couples counselling, etc. However, if you do not observe any improvement, it is best to consider making changes to your situation in a way so as to prevent pain and grief for yourself, and perhaps others such as children in case they are involved too. It is very easy to believe your partner will make changes, they might lie about it as well. But more often than not they will revert to their old ways, and so the best thing to do is to gather the courage and leave while you can. Relationships need to be fun, yes there will be disagreements and arguments, but no one has to stay in an abusive relationship. Also do not blame yourself for the relationship not working. Anything that breaks is hurtful, give it some time, collect yourself and restart your happy life and in case looking to date again, looking for a serious relationship than you may want to consider signing up on andwemet. https://www.andwemet.com/Being In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship? Unfortunately, culturally among Indians, emotionally abusive behavior is normalised by both victim and abuser, as well as their family and friends. It can be a difficult situation to escape and the victim might instead find themself excusing the behavio...See more
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sumitJioson uploaded 1 new photo to Newsfeed Photos albumKavya asked her parents to find a partner for her. She was working in a high-pressure finance firm in New York and was not being able to find time. She had her share of fun and casual relationships and was not keen to get in a serious relationship. She was also keen to find an Indian as a partner, it did not matter to her if he was a citizen or not, but she wanted him to be living and working in the US. Kavya was born and brought up in America, she was 30 years old and had been visiting India every year since she was 2. Her both maternal and paternal grandparents lived in India, her maternal grandparents lived in Delhi and her paternal grandparents lived in Bangalore. Not just them she had her parents siblings and extended family living in India too. Every year she would spend 2 weeks on an average in India, a trip she longingly looked forward to as she enjoyed meeting the extended family. She had considered moving and working in India however she did not find a job that would excite her enough. In fact Kavya had tried dating her cousin’s friend – it was a long distance relationship, they were together for over 12 months, but it fizzled out, because the man she liked refused to relocate to America and she did not find a job of her choice in India. 9 months had passed since the last relationship and Kavya felt ready for a serious relationship, and she knew she wanted to meet someone from the same ethnicity, that is Indian. She was OK with a long-distance relationship to start with but was sure that her future partner should be working and living in America. Kavya did sign up on dating apps as Hinge, Coffee with Bagel which gave her access to men from all ethnicities which was great but not for her as she knew about her filter criteria so these dating apps became a bit of a chore when it came to looking for what she wanted. She also signed up on Shaadi a legacy Indian matrimonial site but did not enjoy the sign-up process, so she reached out to her mother to do a search for her. Her mother agreed and said she would spread the word around among family and friends to suggest prospect matches if they knew of any, but also started going online to look out for new Indian dating sites, sites that cater to Indians 30 and above in the hope to find something. In her search, the mother came across andwemet – her curiosity made her sign in. She found it to be an interesting platform and realized soon enough that she would need to ask Kavya to sign up as the platform asked for a verification ID of the individual looking for a match. The mother liked the idea of profiles being approved, this would avoid catfishing which was highly predominant, she had read some place in the media that 40-50% profiles on Indian dating site are fake, so seeing the verification bit made her feel good and asked Kavya to sign up while she also looked around. When Kavya resisted saying that she does not have time – the mother told Kavya that if Kavya wants to be in a relationship then it is important she makes sure she time and also suggested that she should own the whole process of getting to know the prospect match which again will require her to give it time. Kavya reflected and agreed and also did sign up on andwemet and is currently there searching for her prospect match. Author: - https://www.andwemet.com/Kavya asked her parents to find a partner for her. She was working in a high-pressure finance firm in New York and was not being able to find time. She had her share of fun and casual relationships and was not keen to get in a serious relationship. She was also keen to find an Indian as a partner, i...See more
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sumitJioson uploaded 1 new photo to Newsfeed Photos albumKriya was turning 32. She was happy and comfortable with her professional life and was now contemplating investing time in relationship. However due to pandemic she was not sure how to go about given all outlet to offline socialisation was risky. She knew she had to sign up on an online dating service but was not sure about the available matrimonial sites. Besides she was not sure if she wanted to be on an Indian matrimonial site. Kriya knew she wanted to be in a committed relationship, a serious relationship but was not sure if there are any Indian dating services that would cater to those 30 years and above. Making sure she is does not only depend only on online sites, she reached out to friends to help her introduce to new prospect matches. Her friends said they will look out and asked Kriya on her expectations from a relationship, if she was fine meeting someone who was married before and if she wanted to continue living in Delhi the city she was living in. Kriya shared her expectations with her friends and at the same time she decided to sign in on available Indian dating sites she was aware about. She decided to go all out and signed on 5 Indian dating sites, 3 of which she uninstalled in first 36 hours as she could not handle swiping on so many apps, making a decision in few minutes to swipe right or left. She also thought she would concentrate on 2 apps for now. She started spending an hour in the morning and an hour in the evening looking at profiles. She swiped and decided to reach out to a profile each from the listed apps and started chatting with them via text. It so happened that Kriya got caught in work so could not get back to the apps, but she was fine with the two connects Rahul and Abhay is what they called themselves, she wanted to invest her time in knowing them. She started chatting regularly and was enjoying doing so and after a week recommended a video call. She fixed one time slot with Rahul and one with Abhay – she was hoping her search for finding a life partner would end – and that she could get into a relationship with one of them. She was pretty much invested in her chats with both, however Rahul despite confirming for the video call never turned up for it. Kriya found it odd as he seemed really engaged in the conversation, more than her and now when he had to call he ghosted on her, not responding to her calls and she realised he had blocked her chat. She want back to the dating app, and saw he was active on the app. She was disappointed and decided to look forward to the call with Abhay. She corrected her mood and was looking forward to the call with Abhay, but was disappointed when he came on the call because he looked much older than his mentioned age on the app. On Asking Abhay admitted that he had mentioned he is 38 but in reality he was 45. Kriya, felt cheated as he had lied and disconnected the call. She was upset, and deleted both the apps, and googled – are there any new online Indian dating services that look into serious relationship. That is when she came across andwemet – she googled a bit more and read some positive feedback and decided to sign up. She thought andwemet was a wonderful service which was not intimidating and it also included in slow dating. For now Kriya is an approved member on andwemet and is enjoying her experience on the matchmaking platform. Source: https://www.andwemet.com/Kriya was turning 32. She was happy and comfortable with her professional life and was now contemplating investing time in relationship. However due to pandemic she was not sure how to go about given all outlet to offline socialisation was risky. She knew she had to sign up on an online dating ser...See more
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A Discussion Between Anita And Her Aunt
Aunt (mother’s sister) : you are 28 , soon going to be 30 and single.
Anita: yes aunty I am 28 and am single and it will take me 2 more years or 24 months to turn 30. Don’t you remember I celebrated my 28th birthday just a week back. You make me sound like I need to give up on life (laughs out loud)
Aunt : yes the point is you are 28 and are single. You better find someone or else it will be difficult to find as you grow older.
Anita: I will not agree about it being difficult to find someone as I grow older and wait, I am only 28. Having said this, yes I am looking out, I have signed up on few Indian matchmaking sites, though I have to admit I am not looking consciously.
Aunt : Well you better get serious about finding a life-partner while you have time on your side.
Anita: Time? What do you mean while I have time?
Aunt : You will turn 30 soon and it will be difficult to find a match.
Anita (All confused): whats this magic number – can one not find a partner when one is in their 30’s or above?
Aunt – yes, kind off. In fact, by 30 couples have both their children. And look at you, no boy in sight. Your mother had both you and your brother by the time she was 23.
Anita : Aunty, slow down, breathe. Mommy and you got married when you were 20 years and were managing home and children by 23, here I am 28 and yes though I am ready for a committed relationship I still am finding what I want to do in life. Besides I do know what qualities I want in my life-partner and am on a look-out.
Aunt (Nodding her head in despair): I cannot understand what do you mean ‘know what I want in my lifepartner’. Your generation overthinks too much.
Anita : yes, you may be right, we may overthink at times but I know when it comes to a serious relationship I do have some deal-breakers and I am confident I will meet someone who will match my thoughts and if it means to meet him at 32 so be it (and she smiles). My issue is where or which Indian dating site do I sign up on because all the ones that are available is full of those who catfish and fake profiles and the discussion is more around physical traits.
Aunt : so what are you looking for, what does your bucket list read like.
Anita : I will love to share it with you as long as there will be no judgements or you going all hyper and binding me under the garb of tradition which I think is poor and deep societal conditioning.
Aunt (rolls her eyes, breathes heavily) : sure, tell me, I am all ears.
Anita: before I share my bucket list, I want to ask your views about me. Do you think I am respectful?
Aunt : Yes you are, and you happen to be my first born niece, you hold a very special place in my heart.
Anita: great, my next question, do you think I am caring and have decent values imbibed in me?
Aunt – Yes you are caring and you are a role model for all the younger kids in the family.
Anita: does it make me a ‘bad’ girl if I enjoy my drinks.
Aunt: You know my views on drinking, while I do not promote it, I know you enjoy yours and no, it does not make you a bad person. Hold on, why are you asking me these questions? You know I am extremely fond of you and in fact you are also my go to person when I have something to. I am confused where is this leading to? How is it associated with our main topic of you getting in a serious relationship?
Anita: Aunty all what I have asked you is leading up to me getting into a discussion around me being in a committed relationship. Bear with me, I have a few more questions to ask.
Aunt (rolling her eyes) : OK carry on.
Anita: Aunty, now we know that I am your favourite niece and also a role model in the family (gives a naughty smile) , how will you react if I tell you I do want to marry but before I commit to marriage I will like a long courtship with my prospect partner where we live as companions – he lives in his home and I live in mine. We meet as a couple, we meet with our families and share friends, routine things that couples do.
Aunt: you are confusing me, what is this companionship and why?
Anita : Aunty, will you like me to be in one relationship for a long time (or life-long) or will you want me to marry because I am expected to and then get to know my partner to realise we are not a match. I know you will pick the former. Yes, ofcourse I understand when two people decide to be a couple there are shared goals and not shared goals. And there are compromises to be made from both sides. For me I am good and prepared for all of this, but I will want to be with a life-partner where say 80% of our goals are common – and for the remaining 20% I am willing to compromise.
Aunt (very confused) – what do you mean by shared goals?
Anita: Aunty don’t blow your top when I tell you that I will like adopt, and also give up my high-paying but stressful job to manage a home and start something of mine from home. In fact I am contemplating quitting my job in the next 6-9 months.
Aunt (she had many questions running in her hear): You are confusing me - why do you want to leave your job? Don’t you want to be financially independent? Why did your parents spend so much on your education sending you to America to study? And why do you want to adopt, what if the prospect partner does not want to. Oh Anita, you are confusing and even scaring me.
Anita : Aunty Breathe…its not as complicated as you think. Yes, I want to be financially independent. You know I take singling classes; I want to invest my time in doing that than doing what I am at work. Besides home making also takes a lot of time and energy and I have a dream for the kind of home I want to build. Secondly, mom dad did invest in me providing the best of education, allowing me to travel around the world and doing so has opened my perspective towards life and I hold that very close to me than the degrees I obtained. And ofcourse I can always get back to a job if I don’t enjoy homemaking but how will I know what I really want if I don’t try and I want to meet someone with whom I can discuss my dreams and have him support while I support his.
As for children, I am OK having my own but my preference is to adopt and this I will like to discuss with my life-partner. I am not trying to be radical here, all I am saying is I am looking to meet someone with whom I can have real discussions and take it from there and unfortunately I don’t find any available dating site or dating app or matrimonial apps allowing this sort of conversation and nor do I find you or parents having this conversation with the boys family letting them know I will want answers to this.
Aunt : Oh Anita, you make finding a partner so tough and highly impossible. Hey wait let me look into my friends group whatsapp, someone the other day shared a message about new dating site which is breaking barriers around taboos while have retaining relationship values. Here you go it is called andwemet.com
Anita: I like the name andwemet, will give It a look, how about both of us looking at it right now. Before we do so can I hug you tight and then go and pour myself a drink. Hmm shall I make you one too (wink).
Source: https://www.andwemet.com/
A Discussion Between Anita And Her Aunt
Aunt (mother’s sister) : you are 28 , soon going to be 30 and single.
Anita: yes aunty I am 28 and am single and it will take me 2 more years or 24 months to turn 30. Don’t you remember I celebrated my 28th birthday just a week ba...See moreBest Online Dating Site In India | Indian Dating Siteandwemet.com is the best Online Dating Site In India. Visit this New Indian Matrimonial Site for Committed and Serious Relationship for the age of 30 and above. Matchmaking or dating can result here in matrimony or living in.You need to sign in to comment -
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